Beyond Method – The Art of Facilitating Deep Change
What does it take to be a deeply effective facilitator? We all know good listening skills are important, but how to we foster an even more competent attunement?
In this conversation with modern mystic Thomas Hübl we explore the correlation between presence and integration, identifying the loci of fears, finely tuning our nervous systems and the relationship between trauma and scarcity.
The Heart of Facilitating Transformation
One ability of a great facilitator is to be able to trust the intelligence in every person; to listen to the movement that wants to happen, as if there were a river in each person that has its own momentum and direction. This depends very much on the facilitator’s ability to be present.
Presence is the summary of the integrated development and past is the summary of the unintegrated history. The more presence a person has, the most space there is to hold for the emerging future. It allows the facilitator’s nervous system to tune into another person’s and this together with knowledge makes for an effective facilitator.
The challenge is that we’ve all been born into a traumatized world, so the personal work of clearing and clarifying is of prime importance. And because we don’t know what we don’t know, being mentored is very important to help us evolve, until what we say and what we do is the same.
Helping People Become More Integrated
We are deeply relational beings and much of our trauma has occurred in connection. So the qualities we need to live empowered, created, purposeful lives are qualities we build interrelationally via our nervous systems.
When someone is traumatized there is always a sense of lack. When we grow up with traumatized parents there is a sense that for example only 70% of resources of that parent are available. This creates the sense of lack, of scarcity, of addiction.
It’s important therefore for facilitators to be clear about why they do what they do – does the desire to work with clients come from a place of scarcity or abundance – to be sure that that the drive comes from a place of creativity and inspiration.
We also need to learn to address issues at the level of development where they happened instead of looking at the current level of development. If someone is sacred and the fear comes from something that happened when they were five years old, looking at it from the present level of evolution will not resolve the blockage.
The Spell of the Sensuous, David Abram